HOW WE DECIDED
The Best Options Right Now
We placed no price or size restrictions (minimum or maximum) as criteria when putting together this list. We tried to include beds that accommodate a variety of different sleeping preference because, at the end of the day, that’s what couples need. Now, let’s not waste anymore time. Let’s take a look at our list of the best mattresses for couples:
- Best For Couples With Different Preferences – Helix Sleep
- Couples With Different Weights – WinkBed
- Flippable Mattress – Layla Sleep
- Pillow Top Mattress – Nest Alexander Hybrid
- Soft Foam Mattress – Muse
More often than not, partners do not have the exact same body type or sleeping style. In fact, we often see partners that have opposite preferences. For example, one person is a petite female that primarily sleeps on her side and sleeps cool. The other person is a much larger male that sleeps on his back and tends to heat up at night.
In this instance, a side sleeper bed wouldn’t be ideal. Neither would a firm back sleeper bed. Given this, there are really two options for couples who share a bed. One is to get a bed that accommodates all kinds of sleepers and body types. More than likely this will be a bed that is near the middle of the firmness scale.
The second option is to get a customized bed or a split bed, so each side has a different feel and firmness. That’s primarily what we had in mind when putting together this list, but we also paid special attention to things like edge support and motion transfer, which we discuss in more detail below.
|AT A GLANCE||PRICING||HEADLINE|
|Mixed Foam Popular Pick!||$100 Off + Gift Code: SY100||Dawn is a firm mattress from Helix Sleep. It has pocket coils and dense foams such that we think back and stomach sleepers in particular will really like this bed.|
|Pillow Top||$300 Off Code: SLEEP300||WinkBed is a thick, durable hybrid mattress that includes a comfortable euro pillow top. In our opinion, it’s one of the best mattresses you can purchase online.|
|Memory Foam Value Pick!||$160 Off + Gift Code: RIZSLUMBER||Layla is a memory foam mattress that’s flippable and features a “Soft” and “Firm” side.|
|Pillow Top||20% Off Code: FIREWORKS||Nest Alexander Hybrid is a pillow top mattress that comes in multiple firmness options and is backed by a lifetime warranty.|
|Memory Foam||$250 Off + Gift Discount In Cart||Muse is one of the most affordable, comfortable cooling mattresses on the market. It comes in multiple firmness options and is made with four layers of foam.|
Important For Couples With Different Weights
There are a few different factors that come into play in terms of mattress construction. The first has to do with coils. Beds that have coils (innerspring or hybrid mattresses) tend to have a lot more bounce than all-foam mattresses.
This makes the mattress a little more responsive and also better for sex. However, there are plenty of people out there that don’t like a bouncy type feel to their mattress. They like to sort of sink into their mattress instead.
Next is the overall weight and thickness of the mattress. Thicker and heavier mattresses tend to be more durable and hold up longer. This is especially important for heavier couples given the extra stress they exert on the mattress. Or even if just one person in the partnership is on the heavier side, you might want to think about going with a thicker, more durable mattress. If you’re a lighter couple, though, the thickness and weight of a mattress isn’t as big of a deal. In fact, this is a small point, but some couples may actually dislike having a super thick mattress because they can be hard to lift, move, and make.
The Best Size Mattress For Couples
As it relates to the mattress sizes, your best option is a king. If you sleep with someone else you need extra room to spread out to ensure that you achieve restful sleep. With a smaller size mattress you’re more inclined to bump into each other, which is just terrible for your sleep. I know this is a short section, but the fact of the matter is that you need a large bed—it’s that simple.
If you and your partner want to be 100% sure you will both be comfortable at night–and are interested in a semi-custom bed–look into Helix. You can take a Sleep Quiz on HelixSleep.com, and the company will suggest a mattress that best fits your size and sleep style.
All Helix mattresses combine pocketed coils and several different types of foams, which not only means that they’re all supportive, but also that Helix has several levers to pull in order to find a way to accomodate all sleepers. For instance, they wanted to create a bed for heavier individuals, so they beefed up the coils and make the bed thicker—for the record, this bed is called Helix Plus and you can see it here on HelixSleep.com.
Most of the beds have a fairly neutral feel, but they will have either more or less memory foam depending on the specific model that you select. We just really appreciate that Helix offers so many beds, and yet they’ve made the selection process easy via their Sleep Quiz.
Despite the fact that you’re getting a semi-custom bed, Helix still offers the 100-night risk-free trial window and free returns.
WinkBed makes some of the best mattresses, full stop. They all have two layers of coils and a big, fluffy pillow top, and that is regardless of whether you get the Softer, Luxury Firm, Firmer, or Plus model. WinkBed—and WinkBed Plus in particular—is a fantastic option for plus size couples that need extra support.
The big reason that we included WinkBed on the list is just that it checks a heck of a lot of boxes for couples. For starters, all four models are highly durable and well constructed, not to mention really comfortable. Additionally, they give you the opportunity to choose which firmness level is right for you (i.e. Softer model for side sleepers). The overall feel of the beds is pretty neutral and inviting as well, which means the majority of people will find it comfortable. The edge support is pretty good and the beds do a solid job of isolating motion given that there is two layers of coils inside.
WinkBed even backs all models with a lifetime warranty, which if you look in the dictionary translates into “We have a boatload of confidence in our mattresses.” You could count on two hands the number of brands that offer lifetime warranties.
As it relates to larger individuals, WinkBed knocks it out of the park. Again, two layers of coils, multiple firmness options, and a lifetime warranty. And somehow, their beds still ship in a box. WinkBed mattresses might not be cheap, but we consider them a very solid value.
Layla is one of the best gel memory foam beds online, and for several reasons we think it will be a great bed for couples.
For starters, it has a “Soft” side and a “Firm” side so you get two bites at the apple with this mattress. Even more, it comes with a lifetime warranty and is a highly accomodating mattress. At under $1,000 for a queen size, Layla is a really nice mattress.
Because this is essentially two mattresses in one, let’s dissect both sides individually, starting with the “Soft” side.
We consider this side to be about a medium-soft to medium on the firmness scale. It’s perfect for side sleepers since it offers maximum pressure relief. The gel memory foam also has a fluffy, airy quality to it, which we think does a phenomenal job of cradling your body.
If you flip the bed over, you will have the exact same, soft-to-the-touch cover as on the “Soft” side, only in a dark grey/black colorway. We rate the “Firm” side at about a medium to medium-firm, which means it will be suitable for all sleeping positions if you weigh under 230/250 lb. It still offers pressure relief and you can tell that it has gel memory foam, but it has more of a neutral feel since that memory foam strip is thinner.
Layla also uses a special copper-infused memory foam that helps to better regulate temperature within the mattress. It can help to draw heat away from the surface and keep you sleeping cooler than with a standard 1990s memory foam bed.
At the end of the day, we included Layla because it’s comfortable, versatile (in terms of offering dual firmness levels), and is really affordable. If you’re at all open to memory foam and weigh under 230/250 lb, you may want to seriously consider Layla.
Nest Alexander Hybrid is a nice option if you want a softer, yet supportive bed with a big pillow top. It comes in multiple firmness levels, but the most popular is the medium, which is fantastic for side sleepers, including perhaps those with hip, shoulder, or upper back issues.
We could go on and on about how comfortable the bed is, but the real reason it cracked the list is that (like Helix) Nest Bedding offer split models where you can get two different firmness levels on one bed. As of now, they offer three different firmness selections, which can be fused together.
Nest Bedding also backs this mattress, and all of their beds, with a lifetime warranty and offers the standard 100-night trail period, which is really important if you’re trying to please two people.
Some of the mattresses on our list are borderline expensive, and we recognize that not everyone wants to drop a huge chunk of change on a mattress. If you fall in that category, but still want a comfortable bed for two, we recommend Muse.
This is a comfortable bed made of a responsive memory foam, which most people will enjoy, especially given that you have your choice of three different firmness levels. If you and your partner have different sleeping preferences, you might want to opt for the Medium model because it will be able to accommodate all sleep styles. That said, if you need something softer or firmer, they have that.
Muse also has fairly solid edge support for an all-foam bed. This means you can get a smaller sized mattress, and not feel like your partner is pushing you off the bed.
The big reason that we included Muse is that we see it as a pretty good mattress for co sleeping for a number of reasons. Firstly, we’ve acknowledged that it has a neutral, accommodating feel—that’s good. Secondly, while co sleeping can be dangerous, for younger couples with children, we wanted to include a more affordable mattress.
All in all, Muse is a great value for the price. And we love that they give you three different firmness options. Is it our favorite mattress in the world? No, but it’s not bad at all for the price. And again, it could make for a nice bed for younger couples.
Why Listen To Us
There’s a few different reasons why you should trust us. First, we know a lot about mattresses and we’ve reviewed a lot of mattresses, even including cheap mattresses. That’s pretty much all we focus on. We spend the majority of our day and all night working with mattresses. And we’ve been doing it for awhile now. We’ve tested pretty much all the mattresses from the big brands out there. We’ve tested 6” thick foam mattresses all the way up to 15” thick hybrid luxury mattresses. By this point, we have a good idea of what a good bed is and what a sub-par bed is. We also stay informed on industry trends. We regularly hold calls with industry experts, R&D teams, and recent customers to receive their feedback on new mattresses.
We are not backed by any mattress brand or mattress-related entity. We can say whatever we want. We don’t answer to anybody, which is something a lot of mattress review sites can’t say. Additionally, we don’t accept payment for reviews or videos. We retain full editorial control over the content we produce and are not swayed by money to provide a positive or negative review. Our goal is to provide honest, helpful, and concise content that helps consumers make a purchase decision. Let’s face it, buying a mattress is a big decision and you want to be able to compare several mattresses. We’re talking about a product that should last you 8-10 years. That’s why we take this point so seriously. We tell it like it is. If we don’t like a bed or don’t think it’s good for certain sleepers, we’ll say so. That’s the kind of honesty you deserve and that’s what you’ll get from the Slumber Yard team.
Lastly, we have a diverse testing team. It’s not just a one-man band. We like to get input and feedback from all our team members. That’s super important when it comes to mattresses because everyone is different. There’s no one size fits all mattress. There are many factors at play when trying to choose the right mattress. For example, weight, body type, and sleeping position preference all make a big difference in which mattress suits you best. That’s why we are so proud of our testing team. We get feedback from petite females that weigh less than 100 lb all the way up to 240 lb males. This allows us to interpret the mattress for a variety of people.
Couples With Different Preferences
This is pretty self explanatory and quite possibly the feature couples disagree about the most. The feel of a mattress can vary quite a bit. Like we stated earlier, there’s no one size fits all mattress. There’s no one mattress available that every single person thinks is just right. It can be tough to find a mattress that both partners agree on. At the end of the day, both people will have to compromise a little, but there are enough choices out there that you’ll be able to find one mattress that provides most of what both people want.
There’s all-foam mattresses that can feel quite different depending on what type of foam is used. Memory foam has a very dense, soft foam feel. It slowly contours to your body and sort of hugs you. Some people hate that feeling, some people love it. Latex and proprietary foams have a more a neutral-foam feel. They tend to be a little lighter and a little more responsive than memory foam. If both people love memory foam, great, go with an all-foam memory foam bed or a hybrid bed with a memory foam top layer. If one person dislikes memory foam, it’s probably a better idea to go with a bed that has a thick top layer of proprietary foam or latex foam. Or you could always go with a super unique bed like Purple, which utilizes a patented material called Hyper-Elastic Polymer that has a gel-like feel.
The other popular type of a bed is an innerspring mattress. This is the type of mattress that most people grew up on, with a thick layer of steel coils. These type of beds tend to have a more rigid, firm feel. I’ve heard some people compare it to laying on a thick bed of grass (i.e. it’s somewhat soft, but you can definitely feel the dense earth below). Then there’s hybrid mattresses that have coils, but also incorporate multiple layers of foam on top. These types of beds tend to have a soft foam feel, but also a lot more bounce than all-foam mattresses.
Start With A Coil Bed
For anyone that weighs over 250 lb, you may as well write off all-foam beds entirely. I know that sounds harsh, but I’d rather speak straight to you than have you be disappointed. You want to look for an extra durable, supportive mattress. Both of the aforementioned mattresses (WinkBed and Big Fig) will work, but there are plenty of others as well. For instance, Saatva and Brentwood Home both make mattresses with dual coil layers. The Bear Hybrid mattress uses 8″ pocketed coils. And there are even cheaper beds like Allswell Hybrid that have coils despite being extremely affordable. Bottom line: if you’re plus size or just large, you need a different class of mattress—fortunately, plenty of them exist.
Find The Right Firmness For Couples
This is another subject in which a lot of couples disagree. One person likes a soft bed while the other prefers a firm one. It can be a dividing topic. However, there are a couple other factors at play here. The first being weight. Your weight plays a role in how firm you perceive a mattress to be. Generally, a lighter person (150 lb or less) will feel like most mattresses are on the firmer side of the spectrum. That’s because they place a minimal amount of pressure on the bed. There’s virtually no sinkage. On the other hand, heavier individuals (250 lb or more) will generally feel like most mattresses are on the softer side of the spectrum. That’s because they exert quite more pressure and stress on the bed. Often, heavier individuals will sort of sink right through the first layer of the bed.
This perceived firmness discrepancy can sometimes be a positive for partners with big weight differences. For example, say the lighter sleeper of the pair prefers a firmer bed while the heavier person in the pair prefers a soft bed. In this case, the couple would probably want to go with a mattress in the medium-firm range because it would feel firm for the lighter sleeper, yet also feel soft for the heavier sleeper due to his or her extra weight.
One thing to keep in mind about firmness is that support and firmness are not one in the same. A lot of people make the mistake of bundling those two terms together. Yes, most of the time, a firm mattress will generally provide good support, but there are exceptions. It’s entirely possible to have a soft feeling mattress that also provides the necessary support. Likewise, it is possible to have a firm feeling mattress that doesn’t provide much support (e.g. a bed that has a lot of sag around your hips, leaving your lower back exposed). Support to us means the bed is able to keep your spine properly aligned no matter what position you sleep in. Generally, anyone looking for a mattress for sciatica pain will gravitate toward firmer beds.
Best Mattress Size For Couples
Not all couples need the same size of mattress, but our opinion is that the king mattress is the best size for couples. That said, here’s an ordered list of the best mattress size for couples:
- Cal King
- Split Mattress
- Full Size
We didn’t even list the twin, 3/4, or twin XL because those don’t at all apply to couples. For taller couples, the Cal King makes the most sense, but otherwise the king size is the way to go.
For couples with different weights, the mattress size doesn’t matter all that much. You just need an extra supportive bed, especially if one person is heavyset. We have posted plenty of reviews of mattresses for couples.
For couples with different preferences, you want to get an accommodating bed, a split mattress, or one that has dual firmness, of which there aren’t many.
The position in which you sleep also makes a big difference as to which mattress is best for you. As such, this is another area where couples tend to have different preferences. Generally, back sleepers and stomach sleepers will want a mattress that is on the firmer side that provides a little extra lumbar support. Side sleepers, on the other hand, will most likely want a softer mattress that provides more pressure relief for their hips and shoulders. As you can see, it can be tough to find a mattress that will accommodate a couple that sleeps in different positions. If you do fall into this category, you’re most likely going to want to get a mattress that falls near the medium range on the firmness scale. Most of the mattresses in this range have a good balance between the pressure relief and support.
Different body types also mean different sleeping temperatures. Typically heavier individuals tend to heat up during the night more so than lighter individuals. A lot of that is due to the fact that heavier body types sink further into a mattress creating more of a hugging friction with the bed. But then there’s people who just naturally sleep hot or cool (e.g. the person who always wears a sweatshirt and sweatpants to bed or the person who refuses to wear anything but underwear). Construction also plays into how warm or cool a mattress sleeps. Certain materials, like memory foam, tend to retain heat more than other materials. To combat overheating at night, a lot of mattress companies these days are using special materials in their beds to help disperse heat. Some common materials we’ve seen used are graphite, copper, gel, and phase change material, among others. In fact, some of these companies do such a good job that their beds are actually cool to the touch. It’s pretty amazing. As a heads up, we’ve published a review of the Best Cooling Mattresses for Hot & Sweaty Sleepers.
Other Areas That Are Important For Couples
Above, we discussed some of the main topics couples tend to disagree about when choosing a mattress. Most of the those topics were on the subjective side. These next few topics are a little more concrete. Couples will generally want to get a bed that excels in the three categories below.
Here’s a common situation most couples face: one person rolls over in the middle of the night, hogging most of the bed and leaving the other person only a little bit of room near the edge of the mattress. This happens more than you think, especially with couples who share a smaller bed, like a full size or twin XL. As such, it’s crucial the perimeter of the bed is able to properly support the person and they don’t feel like they are going to roll right off. We’ve noticed that some all-foam beds don’t perform well in this department. As you get near the edge, the bed will start to compress quite a bit and you’ll get that roll-off sensation. To avoid this, make sure you pay special attention to our reviews. We always make sure to discuss edge support in detail. In short, innerspring and hybrid beds tend to offer better edge support than all-foam beds due to the coils.
Not only is sinkage a dangerous topic in terms of individual spine alignment, it’s also a concern for couples. When we talk about sinkage, we’re talking about how far the mattress dips below the surface when pressure is applied. In practical terms, we’re talking about how far the mattress sinks down under the heavier parts of your body (hips and trunk). Generally, you want a mattress that doesn’t have much too much sinkage. A little bit of sinkage is normal, but too much can throw your spine out of alignment. For couples, too much sinkage means the two people will be sort of drawn together throughout the night. Think about it—a heavier partner lays down on their back and a big crater is formed under their trunk. That crater will naturally start to pull the other person towards their partner. So try to get a mattress that doesn’t have too much sinkage.
This is perhaps the first feature that comes to mind when talking about couples. Motion transfer refers to the amount of movement one person feels when the other person rolls over, switches positions, or gets up off the mattress. The less motion or movement the better. No one wants to be bothered in the middle of the night when they’re sleeping. The more times you wake up, the more restless you become and the more tired you are the next day. Generally, all-foam mattresses are able to deaden movement a little better than innerspring or hybrid mattresses because of the lack of bounce from the coils. We’ve also posted a list of the Best Mattresses for Motion Isolation and Light Sleepers.
|What is best for couples with difference preferences?||If you and your partner don’t have the same sleeping preferences, you have a few options. You could get a split king or split cal king where you essentially have two separate mattresses. You could get a “fused firmness” mattress where you have two different firmness levels on the same bed. Or you could both compromise on firmness and get something in the middle.|
|What is best for couples with different weights?||If one partner is lightweight and the other is heavy, you want a supportive coil mattress. You need to pay more attention to getting a bed for the heavier individual.|
|What is the best size mattress?||For couples, you either want a king mattress or California king mattress. If you absolutely have to, the queen size will suffice, but nothing smaller.|
|How do shipping and returns work?||Almost all of the online mattress brands offer completely free shipping and 100-night risk free trial period. If you don’t like the bed inside those first 100 nights, you can return the bed for a full refund!|